Working :-)
It looks like it was missing the Address in torrc. I added up some RAM before- that didn’t help.
Ok, now I have time to follow up all your other recommendations in the coming days.
Thank you all very much for your help!
Best Regards Paul
p.s. as it is finally that easy to get BSD running, hopefully more will follow in diversifying the tor world.
You might also want to try setting the "Address" knob.